Are you still keeping the flame of those Ramadhan habits burning???
We all slip up & the drive that pushes us to do good in Ramadhan is usually not as strong the rest of the year. Here are 10 tips to maintain the good habits u picked during Ramadaan:
- MAKE DUA
It was اللَّهTa'ala who gave u the ability to keep the good habit in Ramadhan, & only He can help u maintain it afterwards. Make Dua that اللَّهTa'ala helps u not only keep the habit, but that He accepts it & makes it a way for u 2 grow close to Him.
- MAKE IT A HABIT
To keep good habits, we got to make sure they remain part of our daily schedule.eg- fasting Nabi sallallaahualayhiwasallam encouraged fasting on Mondays & Thursdays & said:" A man's deeds are reported (to اللَّهُTa'ala) on Mondays & Thursdays & I prefer that I should be fasting when my deeds are reported" (Tirmidhi)
Keep on practising the habit
- THINK ABOUT YOUR DAY EACH NIGHT
Evaluate yourself, your intentions, your words & actions. This doesn't only help you to see where you are & where you’ve got to go, also a great reminder of what you were supposed to do & didn't.
Add questions about your specific habit, eg- how often did I pray today? What was the quality of my prayer? Did I pray on time? Etc.
- EVALUATE URSELF WEEKLY
This helps u see the bigger picture. U can do the same thing on a monthly & yearly basis.
- GET A FRIEND TWO HELP
Share your new habit with your close friends; let them join you in keeping up with it & keeping tabs. This will encourage you, & in shaاللَّهُ, deepen your brother/sisterhood.
Or look 4 groups where u can maintain the habit-like a khatam group on your phone.
- DON’T FALL APART ONCE YOU MAKE A MISTAKE
The beauty of Tawba (repentance) is that اللَّهTa'ala accepts us even after doing something wrong. It is human nature to err. Only اللَّهTa'ala is perfect.
If we become slack, we must realize it, seek اللَّهTa'ala's forgiveness sincerely, & try our best to get back on track, asking Him to help us.
- ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU KEPT THE HABIT
If we maintain a habit sincerely for اللَّه Ta'ala, we will be rewarded and this is reason enough to motivate us to continue to do good.
- DON’T EXPECT THE SAME RESULTS
It was easy to spring out of bed for Fajr during Ramadhan, but now you can barely wake up-don't be surprised, but don't become slack either.
Good habits are easy to maintain in Ramadhan. The hard part is doing so after the "high" of Ramadhan.you have to work hard to force yourself whether it's waking up for Fajr, not smoking, eating less, being more patient, etc.
- WORK YOUR WAY UP SLOWLY
Aisha radiallahuanha reported that Nabi sallallaahualayhiwasallam said: "Do good deeds properly, sincerely & moderately, & remember that the most beloved deed to اللَّهTa'ala is that which is regular & constant even if it is little" (Bukhari).
E.g., let's say u read Quran for 1/2hour on a daily basis in Ramadaan. But now, you feel lazy & want to give up. Yet, u want 2 keep up this habit.
Instead of trying 2 read Qur'an for the 1/2 hr, reduce the time to as much as you are initially able to do, even if it's just 5 minutes a day.ɪ̇f you keep up this '5 minutes a day' habit, you will see the amount of Qur'an you read will increase slowly but gradually.
- DON'T GIVE YOURSELF THE OPTION
What makes u get up for work no matter how tired you are? It's the fact that you have no option, you GOT TO do it and you know that there are negative consequences to not going (u'l be fired)
Use the same kind of psychology on yourself when it comes to maintaining your good habits. Tell yourself, that اللَّهُTa'ala will be very angry with you if you do not pray. & you will be punished in this world & the next. You could lose your job; have a crisis, etc.
Remind yourself constantly to be steadfast & upright upon the Deen at all times’ do not know when we will meet the Angel of Death. Beware of him taking your soul while you are in a state of sin.